Friday, May 3, 2019

My Newest Obsession...and my very first sales' pitch.

My newest obsession has led me in a direction I never thought I'd go...to MLM! I originally signed up just to get a discount on organic oils to diffuse at my studio. Then I got some samples of cleaning products with my starter kit only to find that, not only are they natural but, they actually work! In just a month, I've gone from just wanting a discount to becoming absolutely obsessed with these amazing products and I think people around me can sense my genuine enthusiasm because it's quickly becoming a money-making side gig without me even trying. I recently launched a promotion through my studio and I've decided to do one through my blog as well. 

Anyone who has followed my blog knows that I've never once sold anything. It's very hard for me to find anything i can get behind but this is something that I am becoming passionate about as it is enhancing my life and the lives of people around me.

So, here's my blog promotion:

Tuesday, April 16, 2019

Hello, Old Friend



This isn't exactly a truth bomb to anyone who knows me well but may come as a surprise to people who take my classes or just somehow know me in passing....I suffer from, at times, debilitating anxiety. When my anxiety truly takes hold of me (or, maybe, for empowerment sake, I should say "when I take hold of my anxiety"), I can barely function. I become completely fixated on whatever the current source of my anxiety is and can't really focus on anything else. I space out, become zombified. People will speak to me and I will, literally, not hear them. I get cold, I shake, I can't eat...it consumes me. 

This is a problem I've always had to different degrees but have felt more acutely since I stopped using food and other crutches to self-medicate. In fact, I remember exactly the first time I had a full-on anxiety attack.

My son was about one year old and I had just really started my lifestyle change. I was so miserable that stuffing myself with edible comfort and zoning out in front of the television was no longer doing it. I became fully aware that it was adding to the pain, not detracting. So the day I received a notification in the mail that I was to become another casualty of the 2008 housing crisis, my first thought was to skip the workout I was about to do and, instead, revert back to my comfort eating. However, I quickly remembered that this was no longer working for me. 

I remember standing in the living room, my son swinging in his swing. I started to breath heavily and my skin became tingly all over with a strange hot/cold sensation. I started pacing back and forth and shaking uncontrollably. I got down on my hands and knees on the floor and rocked back and forth, almost like I was trying to comfort myself. Then I cried. When the crying came, the anxiety started to lift. I worked out, ate healthy...and eventually lost my home. That day I started learning ways to cope with my anxiety.

Since that time, I've gotten divorced, been a single mom, remarried, bought another house, built a business, entered my 40s, and said goodbye to a mother that I'm pretty sure was a real-life angel on earth. 

I recently realized that my anxiety has, somewhere along the way, once again spiraled out of control. I realized this by accident. I kept trying to figure out why I was suddenly aging so quickly and having extreme digestive issues. Through my research, I kept seeing "anxiety" pop up and I kept dismissing it thinking, "no, I've already conquered that one."

When I finally took a step back and looked at myself more clearly I was able to see just how far I had fallen. And, with this realization, I did what I always do....jump headfirst into change!

I love to change and grow. Stagnation is repulsive to me. However, I quickly found that change had to come in a different way this time around. Usually change meant filling my ears and mind with countless hours of educational material and working out like a crazy person.

This time I've learned that I need exactly the opposite: I need quiet. I need peace. Stillness.

This one is HARD for me. 

To realize that I can't bulldoze my way through this problem, like I have so many others, was briefly as debilitating as my anxiety had become. 

But I'm getting there. 

Not there....but getting there.

When I wake up in the morning, I no longer fill my head with "stuff". I sit in peace. I, once again, meditate. Even if my meditations go like it went this morning:

"I want coffee now"
"oops, clear your mind"
"I should blog about this"
"oops clear your mind..."
"I am going to do a guided meditation at the end of my yoga class today....I should do some Kundalini....did I leave the water running?"
"oops clear your mind..."

You get the idea. 

But, guess what?! THAT is a successful meditation practice. I always tell people, "it's not about magically clearing your mind. It's the act of attempting to clear your mind over and over again."

And through that exercise, we create space and peace. 

I not there yet but, with every deep breath, every moment of stillness and gentleness with myself I am getting closer....

Monday, February 25, 2019

Monday Morning Motivation: The Perfect Day

It's almost the end of February and this is when, as a fitness professional, I see people starting to drop off of their New Year's Resolutions....this is why I'm not a big fan of them. Every once in a while I see someone say, "this is my year!" And, by golly, it is!! They change everything and never look back. 

However, for the rest of us, each year is "our year" yet nothing ever truly changes. Why? Because our brains are tricky little creatures. It turns out that the mere act of setting a goal, temporarily satisfies that part of our brain that wants to achieve that goal. Read that again, I'll wait....

That's right, we don't have to actually achieve the goal to feel that sense of satisfaction, even elation, that comes from actually meeting the goal. We only need to "decide" to meet it. So, often times, setting goals becomes an emotional band-aid of sorts that soothes us and gives us hope and actually deters us from making change. 

So, what's the alternative? Instead of setting a long term goal (for example, losing 30 pounds by summer), resolve that for just today, you are going to do everything you can to feel good in every way. In order to do this, you have to tune into your body and mind and really pay attention to how things affect you. Here's an example of this in my own life when I'm on my game:

-I wake up at 5:00am. I don't have to do this. I could wake up at 6:30am and race around and get out of the door on time. However, I know from past experience that this sets me up for a day of elevated stress levels (which leads to emotional eating) and frenzied disorganization. So, instead, I slowly wake up, meditate and have some peaceful quiet time before I wake the rest of the house and start doing the morning duty. 

-I exercise. Not because I love it but because I've learned that it elevates my mood, curbs my appetite, makes the tight, achy feeling go away and lays the healthy foundation for the rest of my day. 

-I avoid sugar and other simple carbs, especially during daylight hours. Not because I don't love them. It's because I've learned that they slow me down, physically and emotionally. I've also noticed that it sometimes actually makes me feel grumpy after I eat it. I'm not sure why but it's a definite pattern I've noticed over the years. 

-I fast until around 1pm and then break my fast with something light and healthy. I don't do this to starve myself and I don't recommend this for everyone (every single person is different!). I do this because I've learned that eating early in the day destabilizes my blood sugar for the entire day which makes me feel constantly hungry and gives me brain fog. I've also learned that if I eat something heavy and/or a large amount of food when I do break my fast, that I get very lethargic and have digestive problems for the rest of the day. 

And all of these habits add up to me maintaining (and sometimes losing) weight. However, I don't directly do any of these things for this purpose. They become a side effect of my desire to feel my best each and every day. 

So, if your goals aren't quite cutting it for you as we zero in on the end of February...toss them! Try instead, to have the perfect day. The day you and your body are worthy of....and then do it again tomorrow....

Happy Monday!
Tammi

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Monday, February 4, 2019

Monday Morning Motivation: Your Box


Envision that you have been given a big, beautifully wrapped present. You sit with the present in your lap and admire the decorative wrapping before slowly started to pull at the ribbons and bows and thick, shiny paper, in search of what's underneath. Somehow you instinctively know that, as mesmerizing as the outside is, there must be something pretty important on the inside too. So you keep pulling at layers. 

The paper and ribbons fall to the ground as you fumble with the top, all the possibilities of the gift inside floating through your head as you go. Finally, you get inside the box and start pulling off stacks of tissue paper and layers of this and that and then finally you reach the bottom and find....absolutely nothing. You look up confused and annoyed. 

If this was Christmas, this would indeed be a horrible gift. But it's not. This is your life and YOU are that gift box. It's very likely you've spent a large portion of your life staring at the wrapping. And, if you've lived even close to as long as me, the paper has gotten a little tattered and you're starting to wonder if there's something better inside. 

That's the cool thing about life, you get to fill yourself up with whatever you choose. And there's tons of different ways to go about it. You can be filled with literal things like food and water. You can choose to fill yourself with herbs and vegetables or with drugs and alcohol. Then there's the less obvious things. You can fill yourself with thoughts and opinions...both yours and others. You can fill yourself with dreams and goals. With hate and resentment or gratitude and love. You can also choose whether you gently wrap and delicately place each item inside or whether you cram everything down with both hands until its busting at the seams. It's your box. Or, as I'm sure you've figured out by now, it's YOU.

So take a few moments to close your eyes and envision what you'd like to put in YOUR box. Maybe you need to start by turning it upside down and emptying out everything you already have in there. Sort through it and see what stuff you'd like to put back in. What has served up well until now? What has lead you closer to that person you know you can be? Then recognize that the possibilities of what you choose to fill yourself up with are limitless! Envision each thing you'll put in until you're busting at the seams with your new, inspired self that you always were but just could quite find because you had the wrong stuff in the box.

Happy Monday!
Tammi

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Monday, January 21, 2019

Educational Material Updated

I am in the process of updating and adding lots of books/documentaries/podcasts that I've discovered since creating my original list. I will continue to add more pics and links as I go as well. This page will be an evolving and growing list for a while so keep checking back...


I believe one of the best ways to change to is LEARN, LEARN, LEARN!
Not only does this empower you through knowledge, it's also a good way to practice what I like to refer to as "positive brainwashing" because you are constantly exposing yourself to information that is related to the type of lifestyle you wish to have.
Thoughts become actions, actions become habits and habits become your new lifestyle!
The following is a list of all my favorite books/documentaries and podcasts with a brief description/review of each. Because there are so many, I have tried to split them up by category.

Weight Loss/Nutrition/Exercise

**Note: Almost all of these books will also be available in audio format, which is a great way to educate and inspire yourself while you commute!

It Starts with Food by Dallas & Melissa Hartwig
These are the creators of the Whole30. As a proponent of Intermittent Fasting, I feel compelled to say that I don't agree with their notion that we have to eat every meal on schedule or else something bad happens. However, other than this one little tidbit, I think this book is wonderful and I believe that the Whole30 can be a great elimination diet that can help you create a better relationship with food and your body!







Delay, Don't Deny  by Gin Stephens
I like this book because she really is just the "everyday person" in how she explains her own journey to Intermittent Fasting. The method if Intermittent Fasting she practices is called OMAD (One Meal a Day). This may seem extreme for some but, hear her out! I, personally, was doing exactly this method of fasting years ago when I got down to my lowest weight. However, this was before IF was really starting to go mainstream so I felt like I was doing something wrong even though I felt amazing! Definitely worth a read, whether you find it to be your thing or not!





This isn't so much an educational book as it is a collection of stories about different types of runners. More than anything, it reminded me of the strength of the human spirit, the body and how much potential we have. Very inspirational!








What foods we should and shouldn't eat and why. This is for those of us who have read a hundred different philosophies on what our diet should look like and feel completely lost because they all sorta make sense. By far, Pollan offers the most level-headed and scientific approach to the human diet that I have found to date!







If you experience trouble with having enough motivation to exercise, this book could seriously change your life. He teaches you WHY exercise is so important and the science behind it's effects. I've listened to it several times and it really helped me internalize the importance of exercise. I have ZERO trouble with motivation now (aside from the occasional under the weather day) and I sincerely believe that this book has played a HUGE part in it!





I stumbled across this book quite a few years ago after doing a google search for "why do I always feel hungry after I eat bread." What I found was absolutely life changing! William Davis was considered a hack by many at the time. Now, it's becoming much more mainstream of an idea that perhaps our modern day bread isn't the staff of life we've been told it is!






Don't let the name fool you. This is not a chick book. This offers sound information about how men and women's bodies respond to certain types of food and exercise.










Amen explains the relationship between a healthy body and a healthy mind and how the two are inextricably connected.











Relationships

It's Called a Break-Up Because It's Broken by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt.
This is truly the best break-up companion ever! In fact, I always preferred the audio version. During my dating years (before I met my, now, husband), this book became my favorite friend at night when I would feel lonely or weak. I'd put on my headphones and get my strength back. It's funny and lighthearted, yet really makes you look at the serious flaws that led to your break-up.






Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
If you find yourself always attracted to people who need help and you're always the one who thinks you can change them. This is a GREAT book!

Mars and Venus on a Date by John Gray, Ph.D.
Gives insight into the dating world for both sexes. VERY HELPFUL!

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
This book can benefit men as much as it can women. It helps is "break the code" and finally gain a little insight into what's going on in the opposite sex's brain! He's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt. Maybe you're just not his cup of tea. And, if not, you deserve better. The Tao of Dating by Ali Binazir. Learn how to be the goddess you are and attract the right man.


Parenting

Positive Discipline Birth to Five by Dr. Jane Nelsen
Super short and extremely Helpful!!
Brain Rules for Baby: How to Raise a Smart and Happy child from Zero to Five by John Medina
ScreamFree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool by Hal Edward Runkel
BY FAR the best parenting book I've read so far!! It's not just about not screaming, almost any parent could benefit from this book. It has been truly priceless in my own life, I just can't recommend it enough! Scientific Secrets for Raising Kids Who Thrive by The Courses. This is an amazing (and LONG) series of lectures, all backed up by sound science, about various topics of child rearing.

Mental Health/Inspirational/General Self-Help


We all have a filter through which we send all our experiences. As we have more experiences, our filter gets dirty. If we don't clean our filter, the world starts to lose it's luster. Anyone who hangs out with me for any period of time has heard me reference and/or quote this book in some capacity. It is the most life-changing, non nutrition-related, book I've ever read!







Learn how to overcome the roadblocks in your head that tell you that you can't do something.
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The Law of Success From the Master Mind to the Golden Rule (in Sixteen Lessons) by Napoleon Hill
This book is really good and reeeeallllly long. I can only take it in small doses because it's a little dry but definitely chock full of information and worth the listen!

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey
I just can't recommend this book enough! Every single person should listen to this. Everyone can greatly benefit from it!!!

The Toltec Way by Susan Gregg. The three Toltec Masteries (Awareness, Transformation and Intent) are explained as the key to transcending your limitations and experiencing yourself as the creator of your life.

Monday Morning Motivation: When I Lose My Mojo

I've lost it at least a thousand times. I'll be trucking along, doing everything right, feeling amazing and then BOOM! Often for no reason, I fall off the wagon and restart my self-destructive behaviors. 

However, I've learned so many techniques over the years to get myself back on track quickly. Here are my top five favorites:

1. I write a letter to my tomorrow morning self. I mean, I literally write a letter. It will read something like this: "When you read this, we will be back on track. I did everything right yesterday because I wanted you to wake up tomorrow and feel good about yourself!" Sometimes I will even list everything I "did" (will do) that day. I will write it and tape it to my coffee pot, knowing it'll be waiting for me in the morning. I think about how depressing it will feel if I don't actually follow through with my promise that day.
2. I immerse myself in motivational audiobooks, podcasts, documentaries and books. I like to call it "positive brainwashing".
3. I put one foot in front of the other and work out! This one will probably get me a couple "yeah right" responses but, hear me out! Sometimes I'll tell myself, "okay, you just have to show up! You don't have to give it your all, you don't have to even do the whole thing. Just show up!" 99 times out of 100, I end up giving it my all anyway and I feel so amazing after my workout that I just pop right back on track!
4. I read what I wrote when I was on track! Now, this one will require some preparation while you're actually on track. I like to write down, in detail, how amazing I feel and how I'm so glad I'm not off track and feeling nasty. If you're currently not rocking it, imagine when you were rocking it and how you felt...close your eyes and really feel all those positive feelings of success, control, ease of movement, lightness in step, etc.
5. I "phone a friend". This one is huge for me! I confide in one of my fit friends or even go see my counselor if I've really gotten way off course. Sometimes just talking it out and writing out some goals with someone who will gently hold you accountable will be all you need to get you back in the swing of things.

Regardless of where you are on that "rocking it/not rocking it" spectrum right now, love yourself! Because we nurture what we love and you are worthy of it all right in this moment!

Happy Monday!
Tammi

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Monday, January 7, 2019

Monday Morning Motivation: You, 24 Hours From Now

Today's motivation is simple...what do you want your life to look like this time tomorrow? What will you be happy you did today?

So here are some questions you can envision asking yourself tomorrow.

Did I exercise yesterday?
How does my body feel? Did I feed myself good food?
Do I have regret for my actions?
Do I feel closer to, or further away from my goals?
Did I check something stressful off my "to do" list?

...and so on.

Now write your own questions to ask yourself tomorrow morning. Imagine answering them and how each answer will make you feel.

We are always being told to "live like there's no tomorrow." Problem is, for most of us, there IS a tomorrow! What will your tomorrow self be glad you did today?

Happy Monday!
Tammi

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Monday, December 31, 2018

Monday Morning Motivation: No Resolutions!

2019 is upon us. And it's time to set some New Year's Resolutions....because that worked out so well all those other years....

Now, let me just say, if you are that anomaly who sets these resolutions each year and actually achieves them, then I encourage you to stop reading now, set some new resolutions that you've never set before (because you've already achieved all those, right?) and happy 2019 to ya!

For the rest of us, let's try something new! Instead, of believing that we will miraculously wake up as a completely different person on January 1st, a person that suddenly has limitless will power and determination...and no longer likes doughnuts, let's work with who we actually are.

As humans, we tend to not like big change. So let's, instead, sneak up on that part of our brain that recoils from change by setting 52 small, weekly goals. I'm talking small! For instance, if you currently don't eat a single vegetable and you hate them, your first week goal could be to start eating three bites of vegetables each day. For one week you will focus on implementing this new habit into your life. By the beginning of week two, it should be starting to feel somewhat automatic so you will keep this habit going and implement a new one. Perhaps exercise. And, same as the first week, if you're currently not exercising at all, your second week goal could be to do five minutes of exercise once to twice per week. Maybe around week 4 or 6, your goal is to up your vegetable consumption to 6 bites per day. Maybe your exercise ups to 10 minutes twice per week.

So, if you've tried and failed at the big goals in previous New Years, what do you have to lose? These don't sound like big goals but when you add up 52 goals in one year...you will be quite a different person come 2020...one baby step, bite-size change at a time.

Happy Monday and HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Tammi


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Thursday, December 20, 2018

Monday Morning Motivation (on Thursday): The Present of Being Present

This week I'm sending out this coming Monday's email early because I know everyone is about to be fully immersed in all things Christmas (if they're not already)....

It's here again. The most beautiful and stressful time of year. For most, self-development is the last thing on their minds. Instead they're rushing around cooking, last-minute shopping, wrapping, cleaning....in a frenzied state of preparation. Then comes the eating. Oooooh the eating. And then comes the misery and fatigue. Merry Christmas! Ugh. 

Here's the thing, we don't have to stress ourselves out and eat ourselves stupid to fully experience the holiday. 

I challenge you to try something different this year. I challenge you to try being so completely present every moment that you don't miss a thing. Even when you're wrapping and cleaning, do it with intention and purpose. When you're shopping, instead of loathing the crowd of last minute shoppers that are constantly in your way, make it a challenge to try to make eye contact with as many as you can. Smile warmly, wish them a Merry Christmas. 

When you sit down with your family to celebrate, take in every face, every laugh, acknowledging that any one of them may not be with you next year. Absorb every little thing about the moment. When you eat, don't mindless stuff your face. Instead, pick only foods you love, chew slowly, enjoy every bite with no guilt, only pleasure and complete awareness. (I promise you'll just naturally eat less this way but enjoy your food WAY more!)

In a few short days from now the frenzy of the holidays will be behind us and a new year will be here. Embrace every little precious moment of this holiday. This is your life. This moment. Right now.

Merry Christmas!
Tammi McClendon
New Age Fitness

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Monday, December 17, 2018

Monday Morning Motivation: Do It Now

We don't realize how much weight we are carrying around. Not on our bodies but in our heads. Every nagging, undone task is floating around in there somewhere, weighing us down, clogging our minds. The clutter in our homes, cars and offices weighs heavily on us whether we realize it or not.

I challenge you to take the next week to find every small, unfinished task you can and make it happen. Make a list of everything you can think of and make a game out of tackling them. Use a bluetooth headset to make all those phone calls you've been putting off and you can multitask while you do it.

Yes, I realize it's the week before Christmas, that's why I said "small tasks". We will tackle the bigger ones on January 1st. But, I promise you, if you spend just a few minutes each day this week clearing out all those simple nagging things you haven't wanted to deal with, you will enjoy the holidays with your friends and family so much more.

Bonus? Studies indicate that clearing clutter and accomplishing tasks can overflow into other areas of your life such as making healthier food choices!

But fitness goals aside, your mind will thank you. You will feel lighter and more positive when you sit at your cleared, organized desk. Having a "place for everything and everything in its place" will result in reduced stress when you're rushing out the door and know just where to find your keys and purse/wallet. 

For Christmas this year, give yourself the gift of a completed "to do" list and the peace and tranquility that comes along with it.

Happy Monday,
Tammi


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My Newest Obsession...and my very first sales' pitch.

My newest obsession has led me in a direction I never thought I'd go...to MLM! I originally signed up just to get a discount on organic...